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Glenda Corwin PhD  // Posts published by Glenda Corwin PhD

Is Lesbian Bed Death Inevitable? We Think Not

Is Lesbian Bed Death Inevitable? We Think Not

Seven years ago a young woman came to my office for consultation about a very specific question.  She asked “Do you think lesbian bed death is inevitable?”  Her story was sadly familiar.  She had been living with her partner for 12 years, the past 5 without sex.  She was unhappy about this, but her partner […]

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I Wish I Could Quit You

I Wish I Could Quit You

It’s a great time of year for reflecting on what works well in your life and what doesn’t.   What to continue, or quit doing?   Some things seem obvious—addictive drinking, smoking, and eating are all bad for your health, so it would be good to quit.  It’s just hard to do.   At least you can know […]

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What’s new for 2014? Sex and Magical Thinking

What’s new for 2014? Sex and Magical Thinking

Imagine you could have anything you want in 2014. Would sexual feelings be on your list? Whether alone or with a partner, would you like to feel more sexually awake, curious, open to intimacy? If wanting could make it happen, would you want to feel more sexual in 2014? The magic lies in saying to […]

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24 Sep Posted by in Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off

Are You Ready for Love?

Are You Ready for Love?

Lately “I’m not ready yet” has been coming up a lot. I’ve heard it–and said it myself-many times, and of course it usually makes sense. Everyone need time to let wounds heal, get re-oriented to new situations, settle in after upheavals. But when does “healing” become “hiding out?” How do you discern what’s truly in […]

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13 Aug Posted by in Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off

Positive Body Image Leads to Better Sex

Positive Body Image Leads to Better Sex

I often ask women to rank the most negative influences on their sexual relationship.  Over half of the time, “negative body image” heads the list.  We’re so trained to stand outside ourselves, judging our bodies–but to enjoy sex we need to enjoy how our bodies feel, not how they look.  So how do you make […]

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17 Jul Posted by in Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off

Why You Need To Love Someone

Why You Need To Love Someone

When I first heard Elton John sing “You Gotta Love Someone” I remembered an incident of TMM (Temporary Moment of Maturity).  I’d been worrying about whether someone I cared for deeply reciprocated my feelings.  Then I realized that what really mattered the most, what would last forever with me, was that I’d let myself love […]

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23 May Posted by in Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off

Lesbian Dating: Building Trust

Lesbian Dating: Building Trust

Recently I talked with two women, “Susan” and “Karen.”  They had just started dating a couple months before, and seemed quite in lust. They were glowing and giggling, until the issue of “trust” came up. Susan:  I just wish Karen would trust me more.  She just can’t let herself lean on me.  She’s been hurt […]

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23 Apr Posted by in Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off

Lesbian Dating and the 50/50 Rule

Lesbian Dating and the 50/50 Rule

Today I’m attending a fundraising event where lots of wonderful women will show up to support a good cause–and also, to cruise each other.  Most will put serious energy into looking good, and many will make the eye-contact-and-smiling connection that creates an opportunity for a conversation with a potential date. Then the fun stops.  What […]

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20 Mar Posted by in Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off

Do Relationships Make Us Happy?

Do Relationships Make Us Happy?

Recently I talked with someone about participating in a “Happiness Group,” a program that’s very research-based and teaches behaviors and thinking patterns that have been shown to increase personal happiness.  Her response was illustrative. “I’ll try it, but what I really want is to meet someone to date!” That’s exactly what most women would say, […]

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The Problem with Pursuing

The Problem with Pursuing

“Never pursue a distancer.” This was the maxim I learned in grad school couples’ therapy classes. It seemed like a no-brainer at the time. How could anyone keep going after someone who doesn’t want you? I would have more self-respect! Until I really fell in love with a lovely woman who was less in love […]

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