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Glenda Corwin PhD  // Posts published by Glenda Corwin PhD

Sex and Body Image

Sex and Body Image

When I ask women to rank order the most negative influences on their sexual relationships, negative body image almost always tops the list.  They mean “feeling fat.”  True, some women worry about their breasts and hips and skin and other body parts, but by far the major self-criticism is about weight.  One woman summed it […]

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02 Jun Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on Lesbian Dating & Relating: 3 Guidelines

Lesbian Dating & Relating: 3 Guidelines

Lesbian Dating & Relating: 3 Guidelines

Being present, compassionate, and willing to let go, are key in mindful relationships. Recently I listened to a lovely talk about meditation,  about paying attention to the present moment, practicing loving compassion, and letting go of thoughts that carry you away from your breath, or mantra, or wherever you focus when you meditate.  This makes […]

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Lesbian Dating: The Problem with Pursuing

Lesbian Dating: The Problem with Pursuing

“Never pursue a distancer.” This was the maxim I learned in grad school couples’ therapy classes. It seemed like a no-brainer at the time. How could anyone keep going after someone who doesn’t want you? I would have more self-respect! Until I really fell in love with a lovely woman who was less in love […]

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20 Dec Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on Bringing Your Partner Home for the Holidays

Bringing Your Partner Home for the Holidays

Bringing Your Partner Home for the Holidays

Family visits over the holidays can be warm and wonderful–or a painful reminder of how badly we connect with our own relatives. Unlucky same-sex couples face some unique challenges, like flat out rejection, unspoken disapproval, awkward silences…For many, the subtle or blatant homophobia from family turns a happy occasion into an obligation to be endured. […]

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27 Sep Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on Is Having Sex Really That Important?

Is Having Sex Really That Important?

Is Having Sex Really That Important?

In my personal quest to affirm sexual intimacy for lesbian couples, I keep hearing “Why?” If two women aren’t having sex, and both are okay with that, why is there a problem? Maybe sex just isn’t that important to them. Well, yes, if this were true, it would be true. There is no rule that […]

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10 Aug Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on 3 Ways Couples Can Improve Communication

3 Ways Couples Can Improve Communication

3 Ways Couples Can Improve Communication

Lesbian relationship expert Dr. Glenda Corwin gives practical advice for lesbian couples to help unpack frustrating dynamics in their communication. Dear Dr. Corwin: “We need to communicate better! We love each other, and talk all the time, but we never seem to get anywhere except mad… same old issues, no progress. Can you help?” Recently […]

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29 Jul Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on How to Keep Sex Alive in Lesbian Relationships

How to Keep Sex Alive in Lesbian Relationships

How to Keep Sex Alive in Lesbian Relationships

Dear Dr. Glenda: My partner and I are arguing a lot about our sex life. We don’t really have one, except maybe a couple times in the past year. She thinks we should work on this, but when I talk to my friends they aren’t having much sex either. Sex has never been that big […]

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8 Ways Lesbian Relationships Fail and Recover

8 Ways Lesbian Relationships Fail and Recover

Most of us have had the sad opportunity to reflect on how relationships fail. Whether you’re currently in a floundering relationship, or just ended one, or have been single forever because you’re afraid of failing again—at some point you ask yourself “How did we go wrong?” And, even more painfully, “How did I go wrong?” […]

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29 Apr Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on Is Lesbian Bed Death Inevitable? We Think Not.

Is Lesbian Bed Death Inevitable? We Think Not.

Is Lesbian Bed Death Inevitable? We Think Not.

Many years ago a young woman came to my office for consultation about a very specific question.  She asked “Do you think lesbian bed death is inevitable?”  Her story was sadly familiar.  She had been living with her partner for 12 years, the past 5 without sex.  She was unhappy about this, but her partner just […]

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02 Mar Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on Lesbian Relationships: 3 Tips for Mindful Dating

Lesbian Relationships: 3 Tips for Mindful Dating

Lesbian Relationships: 3 Tips for Mindful Dating

Recently I listened to a lovely talk about meditation, about paying attention to the present moment, practicing loving compassion, and letting go of thoughts that carry you away from your breath, or mantra, or wherever you focus when you meditate. This makes so much sense. Why is it so hard to practice these guidelines in […]

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