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LESBIAN RELATIONSHIPS & SEX  // Browsing posts in LESBIAN RELATIONSHIPS & SEX

Lesbian Dating: The Problem with Pursuing

Lesbian Dating: The Problem with Pursuing

“Never pursue a distancer.” This was the maxim I learned in grad school couples’ therapy classes. It seemed like a no-brainer at the time. How could anyone keep going after someone who doesn’t want you? I would have more self-respect! Until I really fell in love with a lovely woman who was less in love […]

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20 Dec Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on Bringing Your Partner Home for the Holidays

Bringing Your Partner Home for the Holidays

Bringing Your Partner Home for the Holidays

Family visits over the holidays can be warm and wonderful–or a painful reminder of how badly we connect with our own relatives. Unlucky same-sex couples face some unique challenges, like flat out rejection, unspoken disapproval, awkward silences…For many, the subtle or blatant homophobia from family turns a happy occasion into an obligation to be endured. […]

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27 Nov Posted by in • Renate Stendhal | Comments Off on Sexy New Photography Book by Meg Allen

Sexy New Photography Book by Meg Allen

Sexy New Photography Book by Meg Allen

“I brought you a sexy surprise for Bastille Day,” said Aids-activist and writer Anne-Christine d’Adesky, as she poured champagne for our audience at the Castro bookstore The Green Arcade. We were sharing the bill that night, presenting our new memoirs, her Pox Lover and my Kiss Me Again, Paris. “Here’s my pal, Meg Allen.” We […]

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19 Nov Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on Lesbian Dating: Do You Have a Bad Picker?

Lesbian Dating: Do You Have a Bad Picker?

Lesbian Dating: Do You Have a Bad Picker?

I used to blame my tendency to be drawn to women who were vaguely disinterested in me on my first love, a boy I met just before college. Before I knew I was a lesbian, he was my Dawson’s Creek boyfriend, innocently hanging out together one summer, dealing with the drama of dysfunctional families, not […]

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27 Sep Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on Is Having Sex Really That Important?

Is Having Sex Really That Important?

Is Having Sex Really That Important?

In my personal quest to affirm sexual intimacy for lesbian couples, I keep hearing “Why?” If two women aren’t having sex, and both are okay with that, why is there a problem? Maybe sex just isn’t that important to them. Well, yes, if this were true, it would be true. There is no rule that […]

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06 Sep Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on Lesbian Relationships: Different Lenses

Lesbian Relationships: Different Lenses

Lesbian Relationships: Different Lenses

I am standing on the shoreline of a lovely beach in Maui, carefully reading the signs (hoping to avoid a repeat of what was almost was my last vacation in a surfing accident). I read aloud, “Polarized sunglasses may help you see rocks and other obstacles in the water before entering.” Turning to my partner, […]

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10 Aug Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on 3 Ways Couples Can Improve Communication

3 Ways Couples Can Improve Communication

3 Ways Couples Can Improve Communication

Lesbian relationship expert Dr. Glenda Corwin gives practical advice for lesbian couples to help unpack frustrating dynamics in their communication. Dear Dr. Corwin: “We need to communicate better! We love each other, and talk all the time, but we never seem to get anywhere except mad… same old issues, no progress. Can you help?” Recently […]

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29 Jul Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on How to Keep Sex Alive in Lesbian Relationships

How to Keep Sex Alive in Lesbian Relationships

How to Keep Sex Alive in Lesbian Relationships

Dear Dr. Glenda: My partner and I are arguing a lot about our sex life. We don’t really have one, except maybe a couple times in the past year. She thinks we should work on this, but when I talk to my friends they aren’t having much sex either. Sex has never been that big […]

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09 Jun Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on Lesbian Dating: Three Ways to Have More Fun

Lesbian Dating: Three Ways to Have More Fun

Lesbian Dating: Three Ways to Have More Fun

I am driving down the freeway during my lunch hour, leg propped up against the door, window down. It’s a beautiful afternoon. I should be having a coffee and walking along the beach, I think. I sigh, glancing over at my to do list for this hour: Target, Trader Joe’s, car wash. Glancing back at […]

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8 Ways Lesbian Relationships Fail and Recover

8 Ways Lesbian Relationships Fail and Recover

Most of us have had the sad opportunity to reflect on how relationships fail. Whether you’re currently in a floundering relationship, or just ended one, or have been single forever because you’re afraid of failing again—at some point you ask yourself “How did we go wrong?” And, even more painfully, “How did I go wrong?” […]

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