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• Renate Stendhal  // Renate Stendhal, Ph.D. Is an award-winning writer, writing coach and relationship expert with offices in the SF Bay Area. Her latest book is Lesbian Marriage: A Love & Sex Forever Kit, co-authored with her life companion of 28 years, Kim Chernin, Ph.D. Among her books are True Secrets of Lesbian Desire: Keeping Sex Alive in Long-Term Relationships and Gertrude Stein in Words and Pictures. Her cultural reviews are at http://scene4.com/sc4bpaeo/stendhal.htm and she blogs for the Huffington Post http://www.huffingtonpost.com/renate-stendhal-phd/

Lesbian Lit: Excerpt from ‘Kiss Me Again Paris’

Lesbian Lit: Excerpt from ‘Kiss Me Again Paris’

Party at the Palais Royal It was finally late enough to get on my Vespa and drive over to the Palais Royal. Emma’s parents lived on the fifth floor in Rue de Beaujolais. Emma herself had her own “atelier” in the 14th arrondissement, although she had nothing to do with art. Opening the massive, polished […]

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25 Apr Posted by in • Renate Stendhal | Comments Off on Lesbian Book Trailer: Kiss Me Again Paris

Lesbian Book Trailer: Kiss Me Again Paris

Lesbian Book Trailer: Kiss Me Again Paris

Just like everyone, I love movie trailers, those that entice and don’t give away the whole story at a glance. That book trailers can do something similar, is a fairly new idea, but more authors are playing with the new medium. We live in the audiovisual age! My Paris memoir has 130 vintage photographs, which […]

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25 Feb Posted by in • Renate Stendhal | Comments Off on New Lesbian Literature: Kiss Me Again, Paris

New Lesbian Literature: Kiss Me Again, Paris

New Lesbian Literature: Kiss Me Again, Paris

Epochalips regular writer Renate Stendhal is releasing a new book this summer!  Stay tuned for a sexy, exclusive excerpt, right here, coming soon!- Ed There are a number of honeymoons when you are preparing to send a new book into the world. The first is grandiose: when you get the idea of writing your book, […]

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06 Jun Posted by in • Renate Stendhal | Comments Off on Lesbian Love: Me Talk Pretty Silly One Day

Lesbian Love: Me Talk Pretty Silly One Day

Lesbian Love: Me Talk Pretty Silly One Day

Forgive me for paraphrasing David Sedaris, but we have a point in common. Isn’t everybody tired of advice, lesbian relationship advice and more advice, and isn’t it time to laugh a bit? Advice from counselors is a funny thing: I sometimes think it’s silly to give advice: how to be happy, how to be rich, […]

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Lesbian Compatibility: Can You Have It All?

Lesbian Compatibility: Can You Have It All?

Is She the Right One? See Compatibility 101 Part 1 HERE What is Lesbian Compatibility? See Compatibility 101 Part 2 HERE Monogamy, money, living space and pets: if you’re compatible, can you have it all? I decided to ask Kim (we were on a short trip to Kauai). How about us? Did she think Match.com […]

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16 Oct Posted by in • Renate Stendhal | Comments Off on What is Lesbian Compatibility? Part 2

What is Lesbian Compatibility? Part 2

What is Lesbian Compatibility? Part 2

Is She the Right One? See Compatibility 101 Part 1 HERE So, thirty years ago, at the beginning of our relationship the incompatibility between Kim and me would have been detected very fast by Match.com, giving us warnings about each other. I gave a few examples in my last blog: Kim has a hot temperament […]

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Is She the Right One? Lesbian Compatibility 101

Is She the Right One? Lesbian Compatibility 101

Kim and I met at a Paris café, a long time ago. We met there because both of us had picked this particular café as our writing spot. As you probably know, there are zillions of cafés in Paris, one at every street corner. So picking this one, between St. Michel and St. Germain, this […]

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08 Feb Posted by in • Renate Stendhal | Comments Off on Lesbian Valentine’s Day Do’s and Don’t’s

Lesbian Valentine’s Day Do’s and Don’t’s

Lesbian Valentine’s Day Do’s and Don’t’s

I was talking to my niece and nephew in Germany about holidays and gifts. The holiday “tyranny,” we like to call it. We have all stopped giving gifts to each other. “But the girls,” my nephew remarked, “they want gifts because it’s romantic.” Christmas is barely over and there’s the next gift-holiday approaching. Valentine’s has […]

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29 Dec Posted by in • Renate Stendhal | Comments Off on How to Have a Happier Lesbian Holiday!

How to Have a Happier Lesbian Holiday!

How to Have a Happier Lesbian Holiday!

Well, how did the holidays work out for you and your lesbian lover/partner/spouse? How happy was the time spent with the in-laws or with your own family? If you’ve read my recent blog about holiday grudges you know what I mean. I discussed a few essentials, but we haven’t yet focused on the interesting question: […]

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A Lesbian Guide to Holiday Grudges

A Lesbian Guide to Holiday Grudges

The holidays are in full swing. In fact, we’re right in the thick of it– preparations are being made, money is being spent, and that deeply ingrained sense of doom which occurs every year around this time is rising to the surface: The Grudge Beast is getting ready to unleash. Every Christmas, couples go through […]

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