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Kim Baker  // Posts published by Kim Baker

21 Sep Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on 5 Things My Wild Summer Taught Me

5 Things My Wild Summer Taught Me

5 Things My Wild Summer Taught Me

I awake late one Saturday morning with a heavy head, slightly hung over and having missed a long run with my running group. I reach for my phone and tilt my head in curiosity at what looks like a spider stuck to the screen. I recognize it as one of my false eyelashes from the […]

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16 Aug Posted by in • Kim Baker | 1 comment

Marriage Equality and Lesbian Identity

Marriage Equality and Lesbian Identity

I am driving down a stretch of road near San Diego State, listening in astonishment to the radio report that the federal ban on gay marriage has been overturned. As I try to take in the magnitude of this shift, I’m reminded of driving down the same stretch of road seven years ago, during the […]

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14 Jul Posted by in • Kim Baker | 2 comments

Lesbian Relationships: Learning from Your Exes

Lesbian Relationships: Learning from Your Exes

I am sitting across a restaurant table, having wine and catching up with my ex from a billion years ago. More than all the others, I thought she was the one that I would be with forever. Of course, I was 27 then, and I thought I’d be young and have a tight butt forever […]

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16 Jun Posted by in • Kim Baker | 1 comment

Lesbian Dating: 3 Tips to Pick up Women

Lesbian Dating: 3 Tips to Pick up Women

Alone in a new city, working full time and working on my doctorate (full time), I find myself restless for human contact. As I load my messenger bag and empty coffee mug into my car one Saturday after class, all I want to do is go home, put on sweats, order takeout, and watch bad […]

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30 Apr Posted by in • Kim Baker | 1 comment

A Big Lesbian F**k You

A Big Lesbian F**k You

It’s not easy to sacrifice your anger, your sense of being wronged.- Piper Kerman, Orange is the New Black Merriam-Webster’s Thesaurus lists only 2 synonyms but 5 antonyms for the word justice. justice: inequity, unfairness, wrong, bias, discrimination. Apparently, we are far more interested in describing things that are unfair than fair. Marci, a friend […]

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03 Mar Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on Lesbian Dating: Avoiding the ‘Bad Apple’

Lesbian Dating: Avoiding the ‘Bad Apple’

Lesbian Dating: Avoiding the ‘Bad Apple’

The rotten apple spoils his companion – Benjamin Franklin I am sitting around a restaurant table with several friends, sharing tales of our worst relationship ever. The stories, including my own, are of verbal and physical abuse, infidelity, drama, inappropriate boundaries with other women, lying, emotionally pushing away and then pulling back in, and more. […]

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27 Jan Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on Three Tips for Lesbian Online Dating

Three Tips for Lesbian Online Dating

Three Tips for Lesbian Online Dating

Amidst Seattle’s recent comeback win over Green Bay, I’m reminded how very much we all love a comeback story. I explore dating as a comeback story in my blog this month. For me, as a woman over 40, online dating was a turning point in my own comeback. However, I quickly realized that online dating […]

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05 Jan Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on Is Lesbian Dating is Like Football?

Is Lesbian Dating is Like Football?

Is Lesbian Dating is Like Football?

I sit across the bar table from a friend one Sunday afternoon, surrounded by TV screens showing football games. “I don’t know how to date,” she tells me, exasperated. I shove a tortilla chip in my mouth, not surprised the conversation has turned to dating. I nod in agreement and offer, “If you think about […]

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30 Nov Posted by in • Kim Baker | 1 comment

Why Lesbians Ignore Red Flags When Dating

Why Lesbians Ignore Red Flags When Dating

It happened one leisurely Sunday. My girlfriend at the time and I had spent the day at the spa, a peace offering for an ongoing argument. We were joking around and then, just like that. She punched me in the arm. And in that moment it was if all of the years of dating, all […]

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28 Aug Posted by in • Kim Baker | 4 comments

Is Lesbian Dating the New Easy?

Is Lesbian Dating the New Easy?

What makes me think I could start clean slated? The hardest to learn was the least complicated – Indigo Girls I sit, along with four married/partnered girlfriends, at a table in a bar, in between happy hour and the late hours reserved for the young ones and notice we are all talking about the same […]

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