When I asked if this had happened before, she said “Maybe just once or twice…” She described years of verbal insults and criticism...but said physical attacks had happened since sheltering together.
For many of us, this is the most stressful time we’ve ever experienced. A life-threatening virus has us sheltering in place, and we don’t know how long we’ll be here. People are losing their jobs and “essential workers” are having to face this virus with inadequate protection. If you’re sheltering with a significant other, you […]
We’re at the point when you usually start getting more sexual with each other. But, I haven’t told her I had a mastectomy. Now I’m afraid to. Will she be turned off?
That afternoon, another woman told me that she’d been faking orgasms with her partner for three years...
She was with her first true love for 14 years. Her second love lasted for 10 years. So now, at #3, she wondered, Should I trust these feelings, again? She also wondered, How can I make this one last, when I couldn’t before?
However it comes about, first dates are fraught with uncertainty. What is one to do?
One complaint online daters have is “There are a lot of crazies out there!” Frankly, that’s a little unfair. The vast majority of women online are not crazy. They’re just like you, and they worry that you’re crazy too...
“Never pursue a distancer.” This was the maxim I learned in grad school couples’ therapy classes. It seemed like a no-brainer at the time. How could anyone keep going after someone who doesn’t want you? I would have more self-respect! Until I really fell in love with a lovely woman who was less in love […]
When I ask women to rank order the most negative influences on their sexual relationships, negative body image almost always tops the list. They mean “feeling fat.” True, some women worry about their breasts and hips and skin and other body parts, but by far the major self-criticism is about weight. One woman summed it […]
Being present, compassionate, and willing to let go, are key in mindful relationships. Recently I listened to a lovely talk about meditation, about paying attention to the present moment, practicing loving compassion, and letting go of thoughts that carry you away from your breath, or mantra, or wherever you focus when you meditate. This makes […]
Hang on, it’s going to be a wild ride!
— Robin
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