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LESBIAN RELATIONSHIPS & SEX  // Browsing posts in LESBIAN RELATIONSHIPS & SEX

25 Oct Posted by in • Kim Baker | 1 comment

Lesbian Dating: Watch for these 3 Wake-Up Calls

Lesbian Dating: Watch for these 3 Wake-Up Calls

I am sitting in stopped traffic, headed home from the airport following a whirlwind work trip that left me defeated. Knee bouncing impatiently up and down, I replay the toxic trip, for my toxic employer as I sit at stopped train tracks. Finally, the gates open and I inch my way up to the stop […]

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29 Sep Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on 3 Reasons to Take a Relaxed Approach to Dating

3 Reasons to Take a Relaxed Approach to Dating

3 Reasons to Take a Relaxed Approach to Dating

I kneel down and fasten the timing chip neatly to my running shoe, stand up and take in the pack of runners around me. Hands on my hips, I take a breath. It occurs to me that I’m about to run 13.1 miles and I may not be sufficiently trained. As I stretch, I recall […]

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01 Sep Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on Lesbian Dating: Love Me, Love My Ex?

Lesbian Dating: Love Me, Love My Ex?

Lesbian Dating: Love Me, Love My Ex?

Soon after a wonderful woman comes into your life, you may notice a phenomenon unique to our lesbian world.  She’s still good friends with her ex-partner, and likes to hang out with her and include her in friend gatherings. We have a lot of mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, it’s wonderful to […]

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27 Aug Posted by in • Kim Baker | 1 comment

3 Ways Lesbians Ignore ‘Red Flags’ When Dating

3 Ways Lesbians Ignore ‘Red Flags’ When Dating

“I have appreciated your friendship, but don’t think I can be friends anymore.” My directness, combined with my odd word choice surprises me, even as I hear myself speaking them aloud to a friend (now formerly known as). We part on civil terms and I’m proud of our adult-like recognition that this friendship isn’t working anymore. […]

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15 Jul Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on Lesbian Dating: 3 Signs of Emotional Abuse

Lesbian Dating: 3 Signs of Emotional Abuse

Lesbian Dating: 3 Signs of Emotional Abuse

I am sitting on my office floor, old journals and photos spread around me. For the past hour, I have been reading my diaries from two decades ago to remind me of who I am and perhaps to provide a little perspective. As I sip wine and read about the events and feelings of my […]

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28 Jun Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on Lesbian Dating & Sex: 3 Things to Help Decide

Lesbian Dating & Sex: 3 Things to Help Decide

Lesbian Dating & Sex: 3 Things to Help Decide

The key word in this title is “Decide”  This is different from “get swept away,” “fall into bed,”  “go with the flow,” or other versions of the fantasy that sexual desire just overcomes you and suddenly,  spontaneously, there you are!  To decide is to be intentional, and responsible, about a significant step in a new […]

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06 Jun Posted by in • Renate Stendhal | Comments Off on Lesbian Love: Me Talk Pretty Silly One Day

Lesbian Love: Me Talk Pretty Silly One Day

Lesbian Love: Me Talk Pretty Silly One Day

Forgive me for paraphrasing David Sedaris, but we have a point in common. Isn’t everybody tired of advice, lesbian relationship advice and more advice, and isn’t it time to laugh a bit? Advice from counselors is a funny thing: I sometimes think it’s silly to give advice: how to be happy, how to be rich, […]

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15 May Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on Lesbian Dating: 3 Ways to Deal With Rejection

Lesbian Dating: 3 Ways to Deal With Rejection

Lesbian Dating: 3 Ways to Deal With Rejection

Q. My problem with dating is that I don’t know how to end it.  Last time I went out with someone, I knew after the first date that I wasn’t attracted to her…but she acted so interested and I didn’t want to hurt her feelings, so I went out with her for several weeks. We […]

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02 May Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on 3 Reasons Lesbians Choose Unavailable Women

3 Reasons Lesbians Choose Unavailable Women

3 Reasons Lesbians Choose Unavailable Women

Why are lesbians so often drawn to vaguely disinterested women? I am biting my lip, surrounded by UConn fans in a packed basketball stadium. I find myself watching the women’s basketball final four amidst thousands of other fans in the city I used to call home. As I watch on in angst as my dear […]

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12 Apr Posted by in • Dr. Glenda Corwin | Comments Off on Lesbian Dating: Two Goals of a First Date

Lesbian Dating: Two Goals of a First Date

Lesbian Dating: Two Goals of a First Date

After months of obsessing, Sally had finally scheduled her first date.  She was interested in someone on a dating website, “chatted” a few times online, and set up a lunch meeting.  I was impressed with her enthusiasm…but then  she started thinking out loud. Sally’s date-to-be lived near a lake, and  Sally had a boat.  “Maybe […]

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