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• Renate Stendhal  // Renate Stendhal, Ph.D. Is an award-winning writer, writing coach and relationship expert with offices in the SF Bay Area. Her latest book is Lesbian Marriage: A Love & Sex Forever Kit, co-authored with her life companion of 28 years, Kim Chernin, Ph.D. Among her books are True Secrets of Lesbian Desire: Keeping Sex Alive in Long-Term Relationships and Gertrude Stein in Words and Pictures. Her cultural reviews are at http://scene4.com/sc4bpaeo/stendhal.htm and she blogs for the Huffington Post http://www.huffingtonpost.com/renate-stendhal-phd/

A Lesbian Guide to Holiday Grudges

A Lesbian Guide to Holiday Grudges

The holidays are in full swing. In fact, we’re right in the thick of it– preparations are being made, money is being spent, and that deeply ingrained sense of doom which occurs every year around this time is rising to the surface: The Grudge Beast is getting ready to unleash. Every Christmas, couples go through […]

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The Sex That Dare Not Speak Its Name?

The Sex That Dare Not Speak Its Name?

Brave new world of e-publishing: We changed the title of our book. Not while we were writing it, not prior to publication, not before anyone had caught sight of the original title and cover. The book had been out in the world and circulating, physically and electronically; we’d read it from it at public events, […]

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The New Art of Capturing Love

The New Art of Capturing Love

The New Art of Capturing Love by Kathryn Hamm and Thea Dodds is a great new book for lesbians and their gay and straight friends and families. A book that captures love from “until death do you part“ in gorgeous photography and beautiful writing. How refreshing to see conventions fall and be replaced by the new images that […]

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Marriage is a Trickster

Marriage is a Trickster

Excerpt from Lesbian Marriage: A Sex Survival Kit By Kim Chernin and Renate Stendhal Marriage is not the remedy for couple trouble! But there is a lot of magical and wishful thinking about it: marriage will give you a new start, fix your problems, fulfill your dreams… It’s the myth of the “Make-Over Marriage.” (Should […]

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Lesbian Marriage: YES I DO

Lesbian Marriage: YES I DO

A conversation between Kim Chernin and Renate Stendhal, authors of the forthcoming guide book Lesbian Marriage: A Sex Survival Kit KIM: It’s curious, isn’t it, that it took us almost three decades before we wanted to get married? RENATE: It is, although I always had a thing about weddings. As a child, and all through […]

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Much Ado About Vaginas

Much Ado About Vaginas

Let’s continue on the heels of Jewelle Gomez and her thought-provoking post Care to Speculate? from August 21st. I often wonder how much of the radical-lesbian, feminist gains from our Second Wave revolution have survived the backlash of so-called family values and the onslaught of the religious right? Which one of us would have imagined, […]

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