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Kim Baker  // Posts tagged as "Kim Baker"

04 May Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on Why Conflict in a Lesbian Relationship is Good

Why Conflict in a Lesbian Relationship is Good

Why Conflict in a Lesbian Relationship is Good

It was running that taught me the best metaphors for hard times. Just put one foot in front of the other. Healing isn’t a steady upward trajectory. Last week, I stood in my backyard, hands on my hips, watching the steady demolition of my 80-year old garage. As the whole thing came down and eventually […]

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02 May Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on 3 Reasons Lesbians Choose Unavailable Women

3 Reasons Lesbians Choose Unavailable Women

3 Reasons Lesbians Choose Unavailable Women

Why are lesbians so often drawn to vaguely disinterested women? I am biting my lip, surrounded by UConn fans in a packed basketball stadium. I find myself watching the women’s basketball final four amidst thousands of other fans in the city I used to call home. As I watch on in angst as my dear […]

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14 Mar Posted by in • Kim Baker | 2 comments

Five Red Flags in Lesbian Relationships

Five Red Flags in Lesbian Relationships

I am sitting across the table over wine with friends as we discuss how to know when a relationship is over. We share stories of staying too long in relationships when we didn’t know how to know the difference between normal relationship problems, and problems that indicate it’s over. I find myself joking, “Someone should […]

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07 Jan Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on Mindful Self Responsibility in Lesbian Dating

Mindful Self Responsibility in Lesbian Dating

Mindful Self Responsibility in Lesbian Dating

I pull into the parking lot in front of the bar one Saturday night. Rain floods the lot, leaving an inch of standing water everywhere. I put the car in park, leaving the engine running. Windshield wipers going crazy, I sit for a moment, peering out of the drenched, fogged-up glass toward the bar entrance. […]

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16 Jun Posted by in • Kim Baker | 1 comment

Lesbian Dating: 3 Tips to Pick up Women

Lesbian Dating: 3 Tips to Pick up Women

Alone in a new city, working full time and working on my doctorate (full time), I find myself restless for human contact. As I load my messenger bag and empty coffee mug into my car one Saturday after class, all I want to do is go home, put on sweats, order takeout, and watch bad […]

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03 Mar Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on Lesbian Dating: Avoiding the ‘Bad Apple’

Lesbian Dating: Avoiding the ‘Bad Apple’

Lesbian Dating: Avoiding the ‘Bad Apple’

The rotten apple spoils his companion – Benjamin Franklin I am sitting around a restaurant table with several friends, sharing tales of our worst relationship ever. The stories, including my own, are of verbal and physical abuse, infidelity, drama, inappropriate boundaries with other women, lying, emotionally pushing away and then pulling back in, and more. […]

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27 Jan Posted by in • Kim Baker | Comments Off on Three Tips for Lesbian Online Dating

Three Tips for Lesbian Online Dating

Three Tips for Lesbian Online Dating

Amidst Seattle’s recent comeback win over Green Bay, I’m reminded how very much we all love a comeback story. I explore dating as a comeback story in my blog this month. For me, as a woman over 40, online dating was a turning point in my own comeback. However, I quickly realized that online dating […]

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